Sunday, April 15, 2012

beautiful people.

elizabeth kubler-ross is a well known name in the counseling field. thus she's become a favorite of mine throughout my education. she's an expert on grief and someone, through her writings, that i've grown to value and respect. i found this quote by her a few months ago and filed it away. today i came across it and its been on repeat in my head:

"the most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. these persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. beautiful people do not just happen."

throughout the last 6 weeks (really 27 years) i have been privileged to know beautiful people. those who have lost and still give. others who have been wounded yet still trust. and those who have arisen out of the ashes to proclaim beauty. there have been so many times throughout these weeks that i have sat down to write people a thank you of some kind and failed.

how do you thank people in a way that is sufficient?

answer: i don't know.

so, as i ponder that and try to figure out how i will do so, consider this post a beginning.

my friends. to all of you beautiful people in my life who have taught me how to live with more gratitude and more simplicity. who have cried with me. who have embraced grief with my family. eaten meals with me. laughed with me. rode scooters with me. helped move my business. played spades with me. helped hang pictures at our house. walked around the mall with me. honestly, i'm overwhelmed just thinking about it all.

my family. i have been a witness to nate & amy living out faith and hope that life is not about today. they and their son, tucker, have taught me more in the last 6 weeks than i can write in a blog post. if you want to meet beautiful people, i'll give you their address. they know sorrow. they have lost. but they also possess such deep compassion, trust, and love that it humbles me every time i talk to them. my parents and my brothers are really great people. i love them more deeply than i ever have before.

my husband. well, marriage is awesome. it makes me cry to think about God's timing and how he brought aaron and i together when he did. aaron is a beautiful gift and though sometimes marriage makes you want to throw darts at each other, there is absolutely no one else i'd rather spend my life with.

so i think elizabeth was right, beautiful people don't just happen, but they seem to be all around me. really i just want to say thank you. it's not enough, but i need and want to say it.
through grief is real so is gratitude. and i'm learning both.

2 comments:

Dixie Parker said...

Savannah, you are one of the most gracious Christian women I have ever known. It truly only seems like yesterday that you were a little girl. You have always been so precious. I will continue to lift you and your wonderful family in prayer - to the God who loves us more than we can imagine. I am so proud of who you are - the faithful, kind, compassionate, and sweet woman that I love so much. I am thankful for the day that your sweet Grammy allowed me to become a part of your family. You have all welcomed me as if i were a part of you, and I'll forever be greatful for that. You've all known such great loss in the last few weeks. What a wonderful privilege to have been blessed with that wonderful little boy. Thank you for showing us all your faith, your pain, your sorrow, and your joy. God be with you always - Love you, Dixie

Anonymous said...

I was so sorry and saddened to hear about your family's loss. I too lost a nephew, he only lived two days after his birth. It was very devasting to us. The pain never goes away but God's love gets us thru it each day. It is comforting to know that the Bible tells us that our little newphews are in heaven. What a reunion it will be oneday to join them. Love in Christ.